Dismantling Writer’s Block

Writer’s block.

I don’t believe in it.

Okay, I’ll hedge that a bit.

All writers have moments when the words don’t come, or they have to be pried out of our brains like candy out of a three-year-old’s grasp. I do acknowledge that fact. Those moments are not fun.

Those moments are always uncomfortable, even anxiety-provoking.

“Writer’s block” is a great excuse when you need one.

But I’ve learned that when I run up against the dreaded blank-page-combined-with-blank-brain syndrome, rather than “try harder,” I need to dig deeper.

For me, writer’s block is a symptom, not a disease. It almost always shows up when something else is wrong.

I’ve run up against it twice in the past couple of weeks. The first time, I was working on revisions to a book length manuscript. The rut began to form when I tried to revise in accordance with a critique partner’s suggestions. Mind you, there was nothing at all wrong with her suggestions; I understood and agreed with them. And yet the more I tried to comply, the deeper the rut became, until I was stuck.

When I finally stepped back and reevaluated, I decided to trust my own instincts and disregard the advice. The floodgates opened. Ta-da! No more writer’s block.

The other instance was when I was trying to write a post for a guest blog appearance. I got so tied up in how awesome all the other guest-bloggers were (and how hard it was going to be to compete with them) that I couldn’t think of a subject to write about. Fear of the unknown kept my fingers off the keyboard, with that blasted cursor mocking me.

And then I recognized what I put in parentheses in that paragraph.

I know better than that! At a simple decent-human-being level, or at the level of maturity befitting the color of my hair, I know better than to compare myself to others. And at the level it matters most, as a Catholic Christian believer, I know that we are all given the exact gifts God wants us to have. I can entertain exactly zero envy over the other bloggers’ humorous or clever or passionate posts. Once that flash of insight came, I was able to write.

Here are some of the tools for dealing with writer’s block I’ve discovered over the years, none of them my own, by the way. I credit the many authors who traveled ahead of me with these ideas!

1.       Give yourself permission to write badly – and then write. The words you tap out on your computer are not etched in stone. You can delete what doesn’t work later, so just start putting words on paper, so to speak. I’ve often started out with “I have no idea what to write next, but I have a sense that such-and-such character might do/say this, or that plot idea might happen.” Within a few sentences, it usually morphs into something I can work with. The unanticipated gift of this method is that I often discover a gem that livens up the story.

2.       Get out of your own way. Figure out what’s wrong. If there are underlying issues, acknowledge and face them. If fear has you paralyzed, stare it in the face and then stomp over it. We are all insecure. We all fear failure, success, taking a risk, criticism, making a commitment. Deal with what ails you, and then write anyway. If there’s something wrong with the manuscript, try writing the scene from a different character’s perspective or go a different direction for a while.

3.       Change your scenery. Get up and walk away from the computer. (I can’t tell you how many times a solution came to me as soon as I shut down the laptop and stood up!) Even better, go outside. Smell the flowers. Let the sunshine warm your face. Listen to the raindrops on the street, the leaves, the roof. Go to a museum, or a movie. Go to the zoo and watch people watching animals. Go to the mall and make up outrageous stories about the people walking by.

4.       Get physical. Go for a walk or a hike. Dance. Play a game of tennis or hopscotch or go for a bicycle ride. Anything to get the blood flowing in your muscles—and in your brain.

5.       Write something else. Write a thank you note or an email or an honest-to-gosh real live, old-fashioned letter! Free write, or use a writing prompt. Write fiction if you’re stuck on a nonfiction piece, and vice versa. Interview your characters; ask them what they want you to know.

6.       Do something creative with your hands. Draw or paint a picture. Do it with your non-dominant hand. Make a quilt square or embroider the beginning of a pillowcase design, if you like fabric arts. Cook something really yummy from scratch, and enjoy the aromas and textures along the way. Garden, whether it’s indoor or outdoor. Write something longhand. Try that with your non-dominant hand!

7.       Engage with another human being. Hey, we’re writers. It’s a solitary activity. Sometimes we forget how much we need to connect with others. Take a break and play with a child. Talk with your spouse and make eye contact. Volunteer, officially, or just lend a helping hand. Go out for coffee with a friend, or invite another family over for dinner.

Rather than a curse, writer’s block can be a blessing. Listen to it. Let it tell you what you need to do, or not do.

Just don’t let it be an excuse to keep you from your passion.

How do you identify writer’s block? What strategies do you employ to get past it? What have you learned from it?

 

 

A closer look at blogging stats and how to improve them

This is the third installment of my Blogging 101 series. I’ll be posting on alternating Wednesdays here and addressing a few different topics:

Today’s topic covers a closer look at stats and how to improve them.

Sometimes, when I get too busy numberizing, I start to wonder if it’s worth it. I mean, why am I here, the small fish in the big pond? That’s its own discussion, really, and I’ve torn into it again and again and again.

So let’s talk stats, despite my reluctance to get all neurotic.

What are stats?

Statistics, including how many people are viewing your site, what posts are most popular, and what color you should wear. There are a variety of different programs and add-ons for this, and we’ll cover stats in more depth in a future post in this series.

SEO refers to search engine optimization, or “how you get people to find you,” although that makes it sound more important than it is. Wait, it IS important. But it can also be distracting. Just like stats.

How can stats help a blogger improve?

They can be a guide of sorts, introducing you to your audience and what they like to read of your writing. You can gain insight into where people are finding your posts and clicking from (i.e., from a link at someone else’s blog or an aggregator site).

They can also show you what topics and posts are popular. You can leverage this information in a number of ways. You can use it to do more of the same or to grow beyond what’s getting attention. You can

They can be misleading. Sometimes, I have a lot of traffic on a post, and I come to find out that I have an image named “mother” during the first week of May and wow, there it is for everyone to find via Google Images. Then again, back when my most popular post of all times was about a huge family tragedy, I took it to mean that people had morbid curiosity and only came to visit my blog because there was blood on the floor, so to speak. (A friend set me straight when I voiced that and said, “Wow, what a caring community that they came and “visited” when you most needed prayer!”)

What are some ways to improve your stats?

Improve your post titles. On the one hand, you’re telling people what to expect. Maybe that means you’re cutesy and clever. Maybe it means you’re straightforward. Maybe it means you’re a mix of everything. (Can you tell I have mixed feelings about this?)

Make sure you are interacting with the readers you already have. Respond to their comments, invite them to leave comments, engage them. If you have people who read and comment via a social network (i.e., Facebook or Twitter), engage. Talk. Share.

Interact elsewhere online, including reading other blogs and commenting. For me, this ALSO means a few of my social networking circles, too. In the last six months alone, this has really changed who’s coming to my blog and how they are responding to me.

Read the blogging blogs and decide for yourself whether to take their advice. Yeah, I have mixed opinions. But I read it, in part because I’m interested and in part because I’m a bloggy-geeky type.

Write for your audience…and for yourself. Guest posting is a way to blog elsewhere and get known (but do it well!). There’s a temptation to turn into “more of the same” and not grow. There’s also a temptation to never pay attention to what resonates. There’s a fine line you walk (or type?) as a blogger…be aware of that

Get known for something, differentiate yourself. Easier said than done, sometimes (often?). I would argue that it takes years, but maybe if you’re focused it doesn’t have to. My experience is that it takes time to get good. You can put those hours in now or over the next few months, years, whatever.

How do you keep your perspective?

Be realistic. Stats are numbers, and numbers are important, to a point. They are useful, to a point. They are a tool to be used, to a point. If you have any sort of tendency toward obsessing or splitting hairs, maybe stats won’t be helpful. (I may or may not be speaking from experience…)

Set goals, have high standards, and don’t settle for less than the best from yourself. I say this at the risk of sounding like I’m in a high school leadership class, I know. Even so, there’s something to be said for living in the present while aiming for the future. Sometimes. 🙂

Revisit your blogging purposes. They can and do change over time. When you find yourself frustrated with your stats, consider whether it’s time for a change—in scenery, in approach, in something.

Blog traffic is NOT the same as book sales. Since we’re an audience of authors, this is a point you should remember. Blog traffic can help. And being a constant commercial for your book is annoying and won’t help anything.

From the archives:

The simple steps to getting a blog

This is the second installment of my Blogging 101 series. I’ll be posting on alternating Wednesdays here and addressing a few different topics:

Today’s topic covers the simple steps to getting a blog.

1. Pick your platform.

The platform is the back-end that you’ll use to publish your content. Here are the two I have experience with (and the mention of a third):

Blogger – I spent many years on Blogger, and in fact, this blog is hosted on Blogger. It’s easy to use and easy to get started with. If you decide to move to another platform, it’s relatively easy to migrate your posts, but you could start and stay with Blogger, I think. It’s also tied in with Google, so there’s search engine optimization that happens automatically (or so they say).

WordPress – WordPress has really become popular in the last couple of years, and it’s because it is a very versatile platform for websites in general. There are a lot of free templates to let you choose and customize how exactly your blog looks and a great community of helps and tips. Highly recommended as a website solution. It will probably take a little getting used to and need you to read or watch tutorials.Other Platforms

I don’t have any experience with any other blogging platforms, but TypePad always seems to make the top three lists and seems to be easy to use and to make a nice finished look. If you have other recommendations for blogging platforms, please include them in the comments!

2. Choose your hosting.

Do you want to have your own website (which costs money) or just use the free service? If you want a custom website address (also known as a domain name or URL), you’ll have to spend some money for hosting.

There seem to be two popular options: Bluehost and GoDaddy, though I’d love to hear more in the comments.

You can register your domain name and do an installation of the full version of WordPress with both of these providers. You may also opt to have custom email (i.e. [email protected]) hosted as well.

In both of these providers (and probably any others you’ll find), you have the option to have a “site builder,” which is a guided set-up process and helps you learn the ropes.

3. Do what you do → WRITE!

Yes, there is a bit more to it than just that, but only as much as you want there to be. You can have fancy sidebars with blogrolls and even widgets of content. But you don’t have to.

For more on this topic:

Don’t Be Scared Away from Blogging!

In the comments to my first installment of Blogging for Beginners covering 3 questions to ask consider before you blog, Colleen Duggan made this observation:

There’s so much talk today (in general, not from your post specifically) about building a platform, audience and brand that I think it can scare real writers away from buying a domain name and setting up shop.

It’s ok to start a blog, one that is very small, to develop the writing craft, experiment with who you are as a writer, and figure out your voice. I think blogging helped me with this very thing and it’s been a great gift. Your point is a good one–knowing why we are blogging–but if someone out there wants to blog just because, I think it’s great.

I read Marian Roach Smith’s The Memoir Project over the weekend and she suggests one of the best reasons to write down our stories is so our families can have them. If that’s not a reason to continue to blog (even if we aren’t “big”) I don’t know what is.

Colleen makes a GREAT point, and she reminded me of why I started blogging and why I continue to blog: I just plain like it. It’s my space, it’s my voice, it’s my chance to do what I do.

Blogging can be a business and, honestly, I’ve resisted that. For me, as for most of us in the Catholic Writers Guild, I think, blogging is writing.

My goal with this series and with my writing here on the Guild blog is, first and foremost, to encourage other writers and share what I’ve learned and observed. A lot of this–as with so much else in the publishing world–is hit or miss. A lot of it is opinion.

At the end of the day, as we look at ourselves as Catholic writers, it is our vocational call that should motivate us. I’m a wife and mother before and while I’m a writer.

What do you think? 

Go ahead, let’s talk about it. Because this is a conversational piece, FOR SURE. 🙂

3 Questions to Consider Before You Blog

This is the first installment of a series I’m going to call Blogging 101. I’ll be posting on alternating Wednesdays here and addressing a few different topics:

  • 3 questions you should consider
  • The simple steps to getting a blog
  • A closer look at stats and how to improve
  • Four strategies to stay sane

Today’s topic is 3 questions to consider before you blog.

1. Do you need or want a blog?

What’s your motivation? Can you maintain it? Are you meeting a need of your own (or your audience’s) or just fulfilling a desire?

There’s not a right or wrong reason, but I believe it’s good to go into this with your eyes open. Blogging is a lot of work, especially if you don’t like it.

2. What tools will you use?

There are two main tools you need to consider: the platform and hosting. They’re both “back-end” considerations, but it’s worth doing a bit of research to get a feel for what will work best for you.

Platform refers to the software/interface you use to write your blog posts. The three most popular are Blogger, TypePad, and WordPress, though there are others. I’ve only used Blogger and WordPress.

Hosting refers to how your blog will “live” on the internet. Do you want to have your own website, which costs money, or use a free service?

All three of the platforms above offer a free hosting option, and you can also use any of them with a custom url (i.e. MyCustomURL.com as opposed to MyCustomURL.wordpress.com).

3. How often will you post?

Blogs are, by their nature, updated on a regular basis. Since it’s your blog, you can determine what your posting frequency will be. And you can change it.

What can you handle? Will blogging be a writing exercise for you? Could it be a fun diversion?

And, in case this whets your appetite for more about blogging, here are some from the archives:

Feel free to chime away with questions and comments in the combox…

When enough is ENOUGH

A few weeks ago on Google+, I came across a comment that struck home with me.

Someone had written (slightly paraphrased):

Catholic blogs: so that one more person can comment on the Pope’s abdication and what Pope Benedict means to them.

Please STAAAAAAAAHP!

What made me +1 it was that I related. While I have been a total, completely uncharacteristic newshound since Benedict’s announcement on February 11, I’m sort of “done” with opinions about it.

That comment got me to thinking, though…sometimes, I don’t always recognize when I’ve had enough of something. I’ll keep going, often to the detriment of those around me (in real life and online). I just chug, chug, chug along, plowing through and not caring who or what I’m stepping on.

Recognizing when enough is ENOUGH is handy. Here are three ways I know when I’ve had enough:

1. When I’m getting angry.

Anger is a symptom for me. When things online–whether blogs, my own writing, social media content, whatever–are getting my dander up and my growling going, it’s time to call it enough. Done. Pause. Walk away.

2. When I’m neglecting the present and my primary vocation.

This is me talking to me: I have to remember the now, which is where I’m called to be. Maybe it’s time with my husband, maybe it’s care of children, maybe it’s my paying work. But my primary vocation and the present must not be trumped by the demands of my blog (or my social media presence, for that matter). I fail, yes. And I struggle.

3. When I’m talking out loud to my computer.

Sometimes this one happens because I’m so amused, though it can happen because I’m irate, too. I might be muttering to keep track of what I’m doing. But it’s usually a sign that there are frayed nerves or the need for fresh air.

So, chime in: how do you know when enough is ENOUGH?

A Project that Needs Your Help

Back in May 2006, I started my blog on a whim and a prayer.

And over the years, as both my confidence and my numbers have grown, I’ve come to appreciate that, more than anything, it’s about the people.

One of the relationships I’ve come to treasure in those years is the one that’s grown with the gracious and lovely Lisa Hendey, founder of CatholicMom.com. In the years since I first cracked open my first blog post, Lisa has been a mentor, a guide, and, best of all, a friend to me.

When my most recent book was proposed as the first of the CatholicMom.com Books, I was, first of all, immensely humbled. Right on the heels of that, though, was the excitement of putting one of my favorite websites on the covers of a book that I had poured so much of myself into.

This Lent, I find myself once again humbled by the work I get to do with Lisa and CatholicMom.com. Thanks to the generosity of both Lisa and Ave Maria Press, we have an awesome initiative:

I’m learning about how my little blogging–which started as a way of keeping myself accountable for daily writing–has turned into so much more. Lisa’s own work over at CatholicMom.com began as a response to a need in her community.

If you’re inclined, I’d love to have your support for this project. Whether you’re in a position to donate and help us meet our goal or if you can offer a prayer or three, know that we greatly appreciate your participation!

Blogging through Lent

Yes, I will keep blogging through Lent. Just like last year. And the year before. And the year before that. And…well, you see where this is going.

And, just like last year, I think it’s worth bringing up here.

Many people in the Catholic blogosphere give up blogging or other social media for Lent. Though I’ve never done it for Lent, I have had blogging and social media fasts/breaks for shorter periods, and it’s been a fruitful experience.

I think a fast of some sort from online interactions is a healthy thing. Whether it happens at Lent or at another point during the year, it’s something to consider.

Will you give up blogging and/or social media this year for Lent?

Why blog?

I’m baaaaaaaaack! The break I took from blogging about blogging here was a lot longer than I intended, and it’s GOOD to be back, y’all.

So today, let’s revisit the discussion of blogging.

Your publisher, your editor, and your best friend–not to mention that guy who heard you’re a writer and knows all about it–are all telling you that blogging is the thing to do.

Well, yes. And no.

It’s important to have an online presence.

Why? Because you want to have an audience who will buy your books. Your books–you–are a product that your publisher is selling.

Sorry if I just took all the fun out of it. But it’s true: publishing is a business. And for that business to succeed and pay writers, well, they have to sell books.

An online presence gives you a fan base. It might just be your mom, your best friend, and that person whose name keeps cropping up and may be a stalker, but it’s a start.

It’s important to note: your online presence doesn’t have to be on a blog. With all the other social media outlets, I’d advise you to discern long and hard if blogging is right for you. The answer may be no.

But the importance of an online presence remains.

Practice makes perfect.

When you write regularly, you get better at it. Period.

For me, blogging remains a way to keep my writing skills sharp. That said, not so long ago, my crit partner pointed out that a proposal I was putting together sounded waaaaaay too choppy.

“You’re not writing for an online audience,” she told me. “It’s okay to have longer blocks of text.”

So yeah, there’s that. But even so, over my years of blogging, I know I’ve gotten better at the craft in a number of ways. I can remember things better and flesh them out mentally. I have learned how to stash ideas in various places and ways. I map back to unexpected experiences in my own life to apply them to whatever topic’s at hand.

It’s fun.

This may not be true for you, but like blogging. It’s its own form of writing. It’s current. It can be laid back. And funny. And out-of-the-box.

But…

Blogging may not be for you. There are many reasons not to blog. There are alternatives to blogging (such as guest posting).

Blogging can take a lot of time. It can be a drain on your creativity.

And you may just not feel qualified or called to it right now. That’s okay. Really, it is. I give you permission to say no.

Your turn:

Do you blog? Why?

Share your blog’s link and your reasons in the comments and let’s click around!

Ms. Manners Goes to Conference! Conference Etiquette for a Better Experience

Headed for Catholic Writers Conference? Are you excited? You should be! What an opportunity to rub shoulders with industry professionals, to put faces and personalities to folks you’ve met online, to renew friendships, and to network. This is a once in a lifetime experience; make the most of it. There will never be another gathering of exactly the same people at this point in their faith and writing journeys. Truly you are in Arlington, Texas, because God has called you to be there!

Each of you has a specific reason for attending, a goal you hope to accomplish. If this is your first conference experience, the coming days are likely to be a roller coaster of euphoria juxtaposed with self doubt. Be assured that you are not the only one grappling with these feelings. I hope this knowledge translates into a greater sense of ease in a new and sometimes intimidating environment. Here are some words of advice (of wisdom, too, hopefully!) for both newbies and veterans, for authors, for agents, and for editors, geared toward making this conference the best it can be for everyone:

1)      Everyone’s goals are the same, ultimately. Editors want to find the next diamond of a manuscript to publish. Agents want to discover the next author whose career they can guide to new heights. Authors want to find a publisher and/or agent to promote their awesome work. And in this particular setting, all of these people want to serve God with their talents and gifts in the way that pleases Him the most.

When viewed through that prism, competition loses the edge of greed and rejection loses its sting. We’re all on the same side, and God’s looking out for the good of each person’s life and career. This doesn’t mean you should fail to promote your product, just that there is no need for fear.  Which brings us to the next point.

2)     Be confident. You have something no one else does: your voice, and your work. These are gifts that God has given you, gifts that you have honed with hard work and prayer. No one can duplicate your contribution. Take heart in that fact, and know that your work will find its home. Maybe through this conference; maybe not – which leads to…

3)      Don’t take rejection personally. Sometimes it just isn’t a good fit for the publisher or agent. Imagine a library with thousands of books. You have three days to find the best two. You will have to create a system to sort and discard the ones that aren’t suitable for your purpose. Do you see that many wonderful, deserving books will be overlooked? This does not reflect on the worthiness of each one, the same way it does not reflect on your particular project. And in today’s climate, many options are available. So…

4)      Be open. There are many possibilities that we may not recognize in our limited, human view. Be open to new ideas, new directions, new options. You may discover a brand new path, or even a calling! You may discover it through…

5)      Networking. This is the whole purpose of a conference. Meet people! Ask them what they write, who they want to represent, what they want to publish. Have a brief answer for these questions, too, so you can give a nutshell sense of your project when it comes up. (I write ___, and my current project is about ___.)

This is a remarkably small community, and the contacts you make in the next few days will serve you for your entire career. Do not discount the importance of these interactions. They are crucial for your success. But remember…

6)      Be nice. This should go without saying, especially in this setting, but we are human and sometimes we need to be reminded. Keep your comments positive; you never know who might overhear or repeat something you said in a frustrated or disappointed moment. Again, this is a remarkably small community even though it may not seem that way.

Also, restrict your interactions to appropriate venues. Don’t try to pitch to an agent or publisher in the restroom, or shove your manuscript under the door of the stall. I have witnessed the first and have heard of the second, so these are not as far-fetched as they seem. Be considerate of folks. If the target of your interest has a headache or gets a pained look on their face when you approach, be brief. Introduce yourself and say you’d like to send them a query if that is acceptable; believe me, they will remember and appreciate your kindness. And that goes a long way. Which leads to the last point…

7)      Be yourself. This may call for leaving your comfort zone, though. If you tend to be shy (many writers are!) push yourself to be more sociable. It’s not hard; smile and ask people around you about themselves. You’ll be glad you did. If you are an extrovert, recognize your tendency to overshadow the more timid among us and let them shine, too.

I hope each one of you has a wonderful experience at the Catholic Writers Conference! And… Oops! I forgot the most important words of advice! HAVE FUN!